I Love My Child… But I Miss Myself Too

No one told you that motherhood could feel this blurry.
You love your child more than words can say — and yet, some days, you barely recognize the person in the mirror.

You used to have time to think, to rest, to be. Now you’re on call 24/7, pouring everything you have into someone else.

And somewhere in the mix, you went missing.

This doesn’t make you ungrateful

Let’s get one thing straight: missing your old self doesn’t mean you love your child any less.
It means you’re human. It means you had a life, an identity, a rhythm that felt familiar — and now, everything is different.

And that grief? That ache? It deserves space, too.

You can be both

You can be deeply in love with your child and deeply in need of space.
You can cherish the snuggles and still crave silence.
You can be a devoted mother — and still be you.

The goal isn’t to go back to who you were.
The goal is to integrate who you were with who you’re becoming.

A gentle starting point:

• Ask: What is one thing I miss doing that I can bring back in a small way?

• Set boundaries around your energy without guilt.

• Let your child see you take care of yourself — it teaches them it’s safe to do the same.

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